hollandvosjjk:

hollandvosjjk:

Y’all just gotta stop sexualizing any affection shown between 2 men in media. Not in a “no gay ships anymore” way but in a “there are more than just sexual and romantic relationships, especially since open platonic and familial affection between two men is hugely stigmatized. This especially goes for characters who are heavily depicted as brothers by the narrative or are actually literally brothers.”

Like I see y’all taking two characters who have a bond as brothers in the narrative, and their open love for each other, and saying it HAS to be romantic love, that it’s More Progressive for them to be gay for each other and that it’s Queerbaiting if they aren’t Actually Gay For Each Other Specifically…. And holy shit ur missing the point.

Sometimes completely platonic relationships between two male characters with open and adoring affection is actually more radical than them being canonically gay with each other. Even if both characters are straight. And especially if the one character is actually gay.

I’m especially calling out all y’all who do this shit but blatantly ignore or shoot down f/f ships or canon couples bc they’re “actually more like sisters/friends”.

This a-fucking-okay to reblog btw

ok2befat:

insatiablenetflix:

Insatiable | Official Trailer

There is an entire list of reasons why this show should be avoided like the fatphobic piece of garbage it clearly is, but let’s start with the name.

The idea that fat girls are “insatiable” is a rape culture trope.

In the time of Me Too, fat women are still not believed and our pain is a joke to thin people.

This character is brutally assaulted FOR BEING FAT to the point where her jaw has to be wired shut– and the people who made this show think that is “zany”. When I spent my entire childhood being abused and assaulted for being a fat girl– I didn’t find it fucking zany.

Number 2-

Don’t watch media that use fat suits. Period.

Fat suits never look right on thin people and I have come to believe that is a feature, not a bug.

Fat suits exist in order to make us look inhuman and monstrous.

Fat suits perpetuate the idea that for a fat person to become permanently thin, all they need to do is take off that suit of fat they are wearing and- ta da! Thinness and power are yours for the taking.

Number 3-

You can be literally anything you want to be AND ALSO BE FAT.

You can be a fat princess, a fat jock or a fat brain.

Fuck you, Insatiable.

Number 4-

This show promotes eating disorders.

To teens.

Number 5-

Thin people need to stop stealing the stories of fat people.

I don’t care what thin people think about fat people, and I ESPECIALLY am tired of seeing the pain of fat people appropriated by thin people to pretend to be body posi to each other, while making things worse for actual fat people.

I am really sick of catching death threats from neo-Nazis to make space for fat people, only for thin people to rush in and steal it, ignore fat people and shove us out.

Stop stealing our stories. Thin people STEAL OUR PAIN and turn it into jokes. And tired, lazy jokes too.

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@teenvogue is promoting this garbage, which is APPALLING.

The next time you want to thank fake woke Teen Vogue for being progressive for teens– just remember. They don’t give a single fuck about FAT teens, and this isn’t the first time they’ve been fatphobic either.

Let @netflix know what you think too.

soleil-moon-bye:

isanah:

hundondestiny:

I really hate how “your partner shouldn’t be a psychic” has evolved into “you cannot expect your partner to be intuitive to your needs or wants at all” because that’s… quite frankly ugly and a really good way to make your relationship feel like a chore. 

I pay attention to the things my partners like and Store That™ in my little brainspace until it becomes useful. My bf likes tea. We were cleaning out an office full of stuff yesterday and they had some tea leftover they would’ve thrown out, so I took it home to him. Wow! He didn’t tell me he needed or wanted that, but he appreciated it because it’s something he likes.

Not everything has to be some grand gesture to show your s/o that you’re into them and you’re paying attention to them. I recall someone saying they wrote down things about their S/O and their interests so they could look back and remind themselves since their memory sucked. Things like that matter.

And I think it’s really cruel to tell people, and especially women who this type of shit is always put towards, that they aren’t allowed to want romance or spontaneity because it’s an “unreasonable” expectation. It really isn’t. Healthy communication does not inherently mean constant hand-holding. 

This is really important: it’s one thing to read minds, and it’s another to try to consider your partner’s wants and needs. They’re at very different places, and we need to know that.

I had a huge fight on Tumblr a couple years back with some girl who insisted that you MUST COMMUNICATE every SINGLE DETAIL about how you want your relationship to go, or else you can’t blame your partner for being a self-centered cheating douchebag. Because communication!!1, etc.

Don’t get me wrong, good, solid, comprehensive communication is key. But communication gets so idealized, especially among people who may not have a lot of experience with relationships (not even romantic relationships necessarily, this also applies in full to familial relationships and friendships) to the point that most people don’t realize how impossible it is to set down the ground rules of a relationship, rules which are to be applicable to every situation, every nuance to a situation, indefinitely until the end of times or the end of the relationship, whichever comes first

Not to mention how absolutely taxing it is, usually to women in relationships with men, to take on the emotional labor of reminding men that we want to be treated like human people, and not like the Girlfriend Thing. Which, if you’ve ever been in a relationship to a man, no matter how kind and respectful he was, you know that this is a concern that comes up. Add this to the fact that women are not socialized to verbalize discomfort, especially not to men, and the demands that you COMMUNICATE basic shit become herculean.

TL;DR, communication is important!! But there is definitely an unspoken set of ground rules of How to Be a Considerate Partner and if you don’t have those down yet, you might not be ready for a relationship

mehofkirkwall:

biotic-raptor-lady:

shiraglassman:

grandenchanterfiona:

So, a photoset of my two biggest Jewish moments, me and @shiraglassman at my conversion, and then me and my rabbi at my bat mitzvah.

Hopefully eventually I’ll have a pic of me getting married and first Jewish events with my future kids.

Please forgive me for being a sappy baby.

I am heartbroken to report that Miri passed away two nights ago. Please reblog this so as many of their online friends can find out. The service will be this Sunday (7/22) at 11:30 AM if anyone wants to say prayers to themselves at the same time.

Please also send as much strength as you can to their partners.

What a great and memorable smile they had.

They were the reason I joined this site. I’d been lurking because reading their blog helped me get through some very bad days, and I wanted to answer some question they had about Scottish political parties.

We weren’t close but they were a truly wonderful person and they deserved the world.

What– what happened?
Miriam